HUMILITY/HUMILIATION

One of our deepest fears is to be humiliated--to be treated as if we have no value. We all have vivid memories of being:

--unheard
--unloved
--unwelcome
--discounted
--uncared for
--shamed
--denied
--judged
--unworthy
--disrespected

As along as our self worth is dependent on how others treat us, we will always be open to humiliation

When we examine each instance of past humiliation, really let ourselves feel it, and then forgive the humiliator and ourselves, we will take a huge step toward wholeness and true humility. Why? Because the act of forgiveness allows us to see the humiliator (and ourselves) with compassion, to recognize our mutual pain of being humiliated. As we forgive, we heal, clearing our path further to our Source, the Divine.

There will come a time when we cannot be humiliated ever again because our self worth comes from within--our Source. I heard a person quietly say once in response to a particularly insensitive comment, "You can't offend me." I saw humility in action. This comment was made in compassion--the healed person who said it recognized the broken, unhealed heart of the speaker.

When we are whole, we can heal others just by being completely present. Carolyn Myss, in ENTERING THE CASTLE, says, "Humility is wearing our souls on the outside."

Please share your experiences on your path to true humility--we all need each others' support.